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Monday, July 8, 2019

What Do You Want? - Effective Questioning

The most powerful coaching question Bryan Franklin, Evercoach can ask his clients is the absolute simplest one it's a it's a question which I call the most dangerous question on
earth and it's simply what do you want.



How much challenge is too much, this needs to be a discussion at the start of each session as to establish the boundaries and expectations of the session.


The visionary questions tie in with Hazel's magical questions of time shift and imagine the results.


These questions could support the Why section of the 4 Mat System leading to more motivation and meaning.


I wonder if powerful questions aid with reflection and support the What if section of the 4 Mat system?





Goal - Long term goal the desired outcome - Short term goals are the steps to get there.
Reality - understand the situation to simulate coachee self evaluation and identify obstacles.
Options - what are the potential options. Prompt the coachee to evaluate the options.
Will - what exactly will the coachee do to reach the goal and when?

Make sure they are SMART Goals

Specific
Measureable
Attainable
Realistic
Timeframe

Make sure the goals are achievable? How will you know when you are there?
Make sure there is a good understanding of the current reality, have they starting towards the goal already? Will it conflict with other team goals?
What is and is not possible, what are the obstacles? This is where the coach support is important to help support the coachee to come up with solutions for the hurdles and obstacles.

The coach needs to ask good questions that are open as possible and active listening is very important. Silence is very good thinking time and gives the coachee the time to come up with their own solutions.



Here is a really good example of the GROW Model


Magical Questions
The way they are thinking can become more positive, increasing motivation and boosting self-confidence.
The two types of 'magical questions' that I frequently use are:
Imagine the results, look to the future imagine you are already there. Stops coachees, getting stuck in all the issues and problems that can hamper and dampen the spirits.

Timeshift, helps coachee look into the future and imagine what it would be like for them. Gets them to reflect on their action plan and more motivated to jump back into their 'to do' list and action plan.

Remember to ask questions because you are curious, rather than because you feel that the question is useful, it keeps the conversation real and open.

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